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The Second Story: When the Life You Built No Longer Feels Like Enough
If you’ve ever woken up in the middle of the night and wondered, “Is this all there is?”—you’re not alone.
At sixty-one, Shari Caudron has everything she’s worked for: a meaningful career, a loving marriage, a home in the foothills of Colorado. But beneath the surface, something is missing. The harder she tries to fill the void, the further she drifts from herself. When a personal growth workshop cracks something open, she can no longer outrun the truth: the life she spent decades creating no longer feels like her own.
The Second Story is an honest, often wry account of what happens when the strategies that once helped us succeed—proving, pleasing, performing—stop working. What begins as a search for how to age well becomes a deeper exploration of how to live well.
More than a midlife memoir, The Second Story is a companion for anyone who has ever felt lost inside a life that looks fine from the outside. It’s a story about letting go of the narratives that shaped us so we can finally stop performing and start living.
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This book is for you if…
It feels like your soul is longing for something more, but you don’t know what that is…
— You’re tired of proving your worth and pleasing other people…
— You keep waiting until <fill in the blank> happens to be happy…
— You’ve built a life around striving and success, but they’re not working anymore…
-— Your life is full, but you feel empty…
— You’re resisting the mere idea of aging and what comes with it…
— You’ve been continually trying to fix yourself and nothing is working…
— You’ve been laid off, have moved, are recently divorced, and don’t know who you are anymore…
— You feel you don’t measure up…
“Shari Caudron has written the book many people need but few have the courage to write. The Second Story explores what happens when outward success collides with an inner longing for something more. Thoughtful and deeply relatable, it reminds us that aging isn't a crisis to overcome but an invitation to become more fully ourselves.”
— Chip Conley, founder, Modern Elder Academy; author, Learning to Love Midlife
“Shari Caudron’s memoir might just change your life. Many of us spend years trying to become the person we think we're supposed to be. Caudron asks a more challenging question: What happens when that version of ourselves no longer fits us?
The Second Story is a thoughtful, beautifully written, and deeply relatable exploration of the tales we tell ourselves, the identities we construct, and the freedom that comes from outgrowing them. Essential reading for everyone over 40.”
— Steven Petrow, columnist for The Washington Post; author, The Joy You Make
Earlier Books
Who Are You People?
A Personal Journey into the Heart of Fanatical Passion in America
A funny and compassionate account of Caudron’s three-year journey to understand Barbie collectors, storm chasers, Star Wars fans, and others consumed by unusual passions. At its heart, the book is a love letter to the quirky diversity that defines us.
Entertainment Weekly: “Subcultures that inspire rabid devotion—from Barbie collecting to ice fishing—are examined with wit and compassion.”
Winner of the Colorado Book Award
What Really Happened
Unexpected Insight from Life’s Uncomfortable Moments
Guilt, envy, procrastination—and why a fully grown woman should not be forced to sleep with fifty other adults in a hostel with communal showers—are just some of the topics in this debut essay collection.
With gentle insight and self-deprecating humor, Caudron helps us understand that every experience – no matter how difficult or embarrassing – can show us something about ourselves.
Humor finalist, Book of the Year awards.
Currently out of print.